How to Prepare the Mother of the Bride Speech

Dear God, how am I going to make it through this wedding?  It is going to be very hard to give my little girl away to the man of her dreams.  As I work on my mother of the bride speech, I find it very difficult to stay on a positive focus.  This is my little girl I am letting go of her hand.  I remember the day I gave birth to her, it seems only yesterday.  She was so tiny and I was so scared to know that I was responsible for this beautiful baby girl.  I would need lots and lots of help.  What if I let her get hurt, what will I do, will I panic or will my mother instinct kick in?  What if I lose my temper and yell at her.  What if she hates me?  So many unknown questions running through a new mothers mind.  As the years went by my motherly instincts did kick in and we all survived.  I watched her grow from a tiny baby that was totally dependent on me and her father, to a toddler still dependant on mom and day.  As the years flew by I saw that dependence gradually grow to independence.  Wow, can I tell some stories of those adolescent rebellious teen years. Maybe I can include a couple in my bride’s mother speech.  I think God gave us teenagers so we will be happy to let them go when the time comes.

As I introduce myself in my mother of the bride wedding speech, by the way I never knew the mother of the bride had to make a speech, I feel the emotions rising.  How can I do this?  How can I hand my little girl off to a boy?  When did she grow up?  When did she become so smart? When did she fall in love?  Oh, my, there are so many unknown paths to travel through life. I think this is one of the hardest.  Will my daughter survive marriage?  Will my new son-in-law take good care of her?  Will he treat her right?  Will he protect her the way I have?  Will he make her happy? Then I look into her eyes and I see the happiness she feels when she looks in the eyes of her new husband.  Then I see the same look in his eyes as he looks and hers also, and I feel much better.  They will be okay.  Will I make it through this mother of the bride speech? 

As I prepare my mother of the bride speech things start popping in my head.  So much information I can scarcely contain myself to write down my thoughts.  I have the introduction part done now I must make a list of who I need to acknowledge and thank.  I don’t want to leave anyone out.  I have a fear of leaving out the most important people, such as, the grandparents. I grew up in the Appalachian Mountains where Grandparents were loved and respected.  My grandparents were very special to me and I miss them dearly.  My mother of the bride speech must include all the grandparents, a special thank you for attending or if they are unable to attend, acknowledge them in some way.

Although the mother of the bride has put in numerous hours, alongside the bride in preparing for the wedding, there are many others that were involved to make the wedding preparations a success.  You have the father of the bride that has tolerated the entire emotional outburst, supporting you both in any way he could.  The florist has a very tough job in any wedding.  She deals with problems getting the exact flowers the bride wants, and even all the last minute changes the bride decides to make, and with   remaking arrangements that the bride is not perfectly happy with.  It is a good idea to definitely mention your appreciation for the florist in your mother of the bride speech.

Another important person we sometimes forget to thank is the minister that performs the nuptials.  He also has a difficult job counseling the couple and preparing the vows, although it is very common for the couple to want to make their own vows. The minister also has to deal with any doubts and fears the bride and groom may have. He is responsible for making sure the bride and groom are meant to be together.

Wedding bring out the best and the worst in everyone involved.  During the preparations for a wedding the mother of the bride really gets to know the groom as well as seeing a different side of her daughter.   Emotions run high.  There will be fighting and quarrelling, highs and lows, but most of all there will be a growing love as you all get to know each other.  In your mother of the bride speech you can include the developing relationship of the bride and groom.  You will see many changes, mostly good ones.  You see their love grow stronger at times although sometimes it seems they are tearing apart. Tempers will flare, but the love they have for each other will overcome the stress and the low times.  Let the negative feelings roll off your shoulders and let the high feelings grow stronger.  You will get to know the good and bad qualities of the bride and groom.  You will see that they are just human, each special in their own way.  They will survive.

Although you may not mention this in your mother of the bride speech, you can give the bride and groom a little marriage advice it they ask for it.  Never give advice to a newly married couple unless they ask for it, and never interfere with their disagreements.  They are adults and must work out their own problems.

At the end of your mother of the bride speech you will want to toast the newly married couple.  You will wish them a long and happy life together. They are venturing on a long journey.

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